Recognize the other person is You.
Emotional intelligence is a lifeline to our self and our relatings in all areas, especially to relationships closest to us. An idea of emotional relating is: If we cannot identify our own emotions, how are we supposed to understand them or process them? If we cannot understand and process them, how can we communicate about them with others?
My big teachers in a once truly limited capacity in communicating and navigating my emotional landscapes had been the healing, studying and developing experiences through death, marriage and divorce. Looking at myself just two years ago – I wasn’t capable of consciously communicating to myself a real underlying cause of some disruptive emotion experienced. In the midst of grieving and not being taught the other kind of intelligence (modern society is all about cognitive intelligence) – I’d over-identify with my reaction and communicate from that place. So identification of my “why” was off to begin with. Instead it was based on an on-the-surface reaction had to a thing – not from a full root of where the reaction first began. Limited understanding = blocked communication.
Sometimes we find ourselves shutting down opportunities for a deeper relating with someone we actually want to relate to- mostly by the way we speak with them – which often comes from the way we talk to ourselves. If you find this area to be one you have wanted to explore the roots of blockages and receiving a guided healing support – healing guidance sessions with me explores this.
Give yourself grace in knowing you aren’t alone. Give yourself confidence in knowing you can shift your connections with others in taking responsibility for your self-inquiry and healing.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀